This morning I dropped off the boy at pre-school, on a Wednesday the children who are going up to ‘big’ school in September are allowed to stay lunch and have an extra afternoon session, but it was made very clear to us at parents night by the owner that it isn’t right for my son, because in her words not mine “of how he is” and she also asked if we had ever thought about teaching him his colours.
Obviously because he isn’t speaking and doesn’t interact with the other children that means we don’t try and do anything with him ever, right? well no, wrong actually we probably do more with him than parents with so called normal kids do with their kids, since every waking moment we are trying to encourage him to speak and play and interact.
The way the owner spoke to us at parents night made me think about moving him, if there was another pre-school close to my Dad’s house (Dad has to walk to pick him up when I am at work) and he wasn’t so happy there I would have done. Luckily the manager of the setting isn’t the owner and she knows how hard everyone is trying to get him up to speed for September.
I managed to speak to the manager this morning and might even raise the issue of him staying all day on a Wednesday with her next week (I won’t be taking or picking up again this week due to work commitments) as I do feel that he would really benefit from the extra session and the experience of been away from home for a full day in preparation for September when he has to start school.
If they refuse to allow it maybe I will make a call to the local authority and see if this is something that they can take forward for me, I really feel like he is been excluded because he has some additional needs and that is not fair on him.
Half Five this morning the lad decided he was awake, he doesn’t just get up and play with his toys or look at his books or even go downstairs and put the telly on like a lot of 4 years olds would though, he lays in his bed making a whining sound until someone (normally me) gives in and goes in to him.
I gave him a few minutes just in case he decided that he didn’t want to be awake after all, but as he was coughing a bit in-between the sound it was pretty obvious that this was not going to happen.
So we were up and dressed and downstairs watching the news (no kids telly in this house until everyone is ready for school) by half 6.
Hubby is sulking with me because I got up to him, apparently going in to him to early just encourages him to get up early, I’m not sure that is true, after all he can’t tell the time and he doesn’t always wake up this early. I think that if he is awake and making a noise that means I can’t sleep that there is no point in been in bed listening to him I might aswell sort him out, and have a cup of tea whilst I am at it lols.
Oh well, I am at work again today, I am not at the gym tonight hubby is working to late for that and we need to move furniture ready for the carpet fitters coming tomorrow.
Everyone at work loves my flapjack and so do my kids so here is the recipe
100g Butter (proper butter none of that low fat rubbish)
1-2 tablespoons of honey (again proper honey not golden syrup)
100g sugar (caster or granulated doesn’t make a difference)
125g oats (I use porridge oats)
50g Self Raising flour
1 tsp of ginger
You can add coconut, dried cranberries, cocoa powder or any other dried fruit to it if you want
- Mix all of the dry ingredients in a bowl
- Melt the butter and honey over a low heat and add to the dry Ingredients
- Mix well, the mixture shouldn’t look to sticky if it does add more oats
- Pour onto a lined baking tray and press down with the back of a metal spoon until it looks smooth, it should be about 1- 1.5cm deep and a deeper tray like a square cake tin works best.
- Bake in a moderate/hot oven (about 180C) for 15-20 mins
- It should look brown on the top when you take it out of the oven
- If it looks wet in the middle give it a few more minutes
- Once out of the oven allow to cool before removing from the tin but try and slice it into portions whilst still warm.
Well work was pretty mental as always, but I dropped my son off at preschool and the senco wasn’t there so I couldn’t ask the questions that I had, hopefully she will be there in the morning and I will be able to talk to her then.
On the plus side he was very happy when I dropped him off and was good for my Dad.
I have been given some books about autism spectrum disorder and behaviour from work and such a lot of it seems to apply to my son, all I want is for him to get through the assessment process and find out for sure, then we can move on and concentrate on making him the best that he can be.
He is such a happy little boy, but he does live in his own world a lot of the time.
On another note the teenager is making curry tomorrow at school, no idea what it will be like but will have to at least pretend its fab 🙂
Humph back at work today after the weekend, the lad is back at pre-school to which will give me a chance to talk to them about him and what is happening, they are supposed to have referred him for an Ed Psyche assessment a couple of weeks a go and I haven’t heard anything yet. I know that these things take time though so I just want to be sure it has been done. I am also waiting for an assessment by the community paediatrician for a developmental check for him, all of the pre-school assessments and speech and language assessments have him at about 16-24 months for speech, communication and social but 3yrs for physical development.
He still isn’t talking, we get the odd thing at home but he is mostly silent unless you force him to ask for things or ask him what something is. He still doesn’t initiate any conversations and if you ask him what he has been doing he doesn’t answer you, its so frustrating it would be nice to hear him say Mummy or tell me what he has been doing at pre-school, he is 4 in 3 weeks and so far he has done neither of those things.
Work really sucks at the minute but I have the gym to look forward to for tonight 🙂 I used to feel bad about going to the gym on a night but since the boy stopped allowing anyone to do anything for him when I am there apart from me its meant that he will let his Dad put him to bed on those days, if I didn’t go out my husband would never get the chance to have that special story time with him.
So for now I will drink my coffee and hope for a good day xx
Well I was expecting tears and tantrums at some point whilst we were out, but it just never happened, so that makes me a happy mummy tonight.
If only the staff at the library could be a little more friendly, we have two at our library one that is always happy and has time for children and grumps who always looks angry. Both were on today, luckily my son got served by the nice lady who even let him stamp his own books and gave him a sticker.
Last time we went it was grumps who barely makes eye contact with you when she is serving you and seems to really hate kids.
When we got home we read the books and then I cooked tea, which he refused to even try. I am not sure how I am going to get him to eat more he doesn’t seem interested in food, anyway he is in the bath now having a great time.
I don’t think it is going to be fun getting him out.